As we rapidly approach Christmas, many people find this a hard time of year emotionally. With the stress of organising or the sadness of remembering, this can be a tough time for people of all ages & backgrounds. Even after the festivities have finished, emotions are heightened for many reasons & counselling may help you to put things in perspective.
Based in Bourne End, I have worked as a volunteer counsellor, set up a support group for people with a Chronic Illness/pain, created & run a local community website & have also written an Agony Aunt column for one of our local newspapers.
So What Does Counselling Involve?
Counselling gives you the opportunity to have some quality, personal time for yourself. It gives you time to talk about any issues or concerns with an experienced therapist who will hear & understand you in a non-judgemental way.
You will have the valuable time to explore your thoughts & feelings, & reflect on your life looking at the past, present & opportunities for the future. By working through your difficulties you can make changes that suit you & give you a more fulfilling life.
Each session is client led & non-directive, meaning you are in total control of the areas you wish to explore.
There are no limits on how many sessions you can have but we can discuss this during your initial appointment. I work within the ethical framework of the BACP which gives you the assurance that I have trained & practice to a high standard.
Therapy can help you with many issues including:
* Depression, Stress & Anxiety
* Eating Disorders
* Bereavement & Loss
* Health Issues
* Life Changes & Transitions
All sessions are strictly confidential & last 50 mins which are normally on a weekly basis.
No referrals needed & I can usually offer an appointment within a couple days. Concessions are available.
For more information please visit the Facebook page or the website www.emotionalsupportcounselling.com
As a qualified psychotherapist & Agony Aunt for The Bucks Free Press, I had written this article a couple of years ago to help people find a suitable therapist. More clients are finding that “Talking Therapies” are just as effective as medication & unlike anti-depressants, talking can solve mental issues rather than just cover it up. If you or someone you know is having problems & willing to try out counselling, please read the following.
How to choose a private counsellor / psychotherapist
Many people at some point in their lives feel that a counsellor may be able to help them with emotional issues when they are feeling low, bereaved or experiencing a difficult situation. But how do you know you are making the right choice when you are in a vulnerable state and looking for help?
Your GP can be a good starting point and there are many charities who can offer free counselling but sometimes the waiting list is long and you are usually allocated a counsellor when you may feel you would like to choose one. It can feel like a mine field when you start to look at the options available to you. Do you choose person-centred, CBT or one of the many other therapeutic approaches.
Some counsellors may specialise in certain areas such as couple counselling, bereavement or abuse but all should provide you with a non-judgemental & empathic environment for you to explore your thoughts and feelings. A few simple guidelines should prevent you from wasting too much time allowing you to get started with your recovery process.
Whether you decide on a specialist or not, you should check with the prospective counsellor that they belong to a reputable professional body with a code of conduct and a complaints procedure such as the BACP (British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy) or UKCP (United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy). This will give you confidence that your therapist is qualified and will adhere to their code of ethics.
Both qualifications and experience are important aspects to consider. However, it is equally important that the therapeutic relationship is right for you in order to move forward and find improvement in your life. You should feel comfortable enough to trust your therapist as you “open up” and disclose your feelings. For some people only a few sessions are needed but do be prepared that you may need longer than you originally thought to work through life’s difficulties.
Other things to be considered are:
- Do they have relevant insurance?
- Is there a reduction for people with financial difficulties?
- Would they agree to an initial free consultation?
- What happens if you see your therapist while out socialising, would they be discreet? Can the therapist see you at a time of day that suits you?
- How long and how much is each session?
Counselling can be a wonderful experience although the process may be difficult at times but with a good therapist supporting you through your journey to a happier life, it is well worth the rocky ride to get there.
by Kaye Townsend MBACP